tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post4873571501443949364..comments2024-03-15T02:29:34.542-04:00Comments on second lives club: Everyday Eva: Don't go gray until you read this! Carylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13974936052921657663noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-14176389607229182852019-11-07T01:16:59.156-05:002019-11-07T01:16:59.156-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Dr. Health Clinichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03952546613364150335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-20864188870827003032017-07-12T11:12:54.036-04:002017-07-12T11:12:54.036-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.redahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18053892569803968196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-61269201337748421602016-02-23T13:46:33.545-05:002016-02-23T13:46:33.545-05:00My husband thinks I should go gray, but I am 51 an...My husband thinks I should go gray, but I am 51 and I dye my hair red. I so agree with the statement in the article, that hair is the one thing we have control over as we age. I can't fix my weight in a day, or the settling of my face, or anything else, really. But I can fix my hair! And I always feel better. I think going gray is a fad, and it's fine to be "natural" but it's not for everyone. Honestly, everyone I know that has gone gray looks worse (and older). Friends say they look great, and maybe they believe that. I don't. The wrong color of clothing makes their hair look yellow. Most just look drab. Sure, movie stars look good, but how much did they pay for that great haircut and are we sure they're not doing "something" to get that nice shade of silver? I'm not convinced. I keep thinking back to why I started dying my hair in the first place: fading color, loss of shine, washed out face. Hurray for those who feel good about going gray! I think I'll keep my red for awhile longer....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-74422790859148788152013-07-31T02:53:33.588-04:002013-07-31T02:53:33.588-04:00Some men may not like gray. But when you look at t...Some men may not like gray. But when you look at the beautiful pictures of some of the women who have decided to go gray, it is hard to imagine some men not liking the look and beauty of those natural-haired women. And no woman needs to please all the men (and never will anyway), so all you need to please is you (for starters) and then the RIGHT man. And based on comments from men on the Facebook sites and other articles, clearly there are some men who do like, or even prefer, the gray. Certainly, there will always be those who want the younger look. But I think as more of us go gray while still showing youthfulness (if not youth), vibrancy, health, and vitality, perhaps the mindset about gray hair will change. I think when a woman goes natural, especially when the hair is one of those pewter to silvery colors in an attractive cut, especially in a longer length (which is so unexpected), and at the same time obviously takes care of herself and is attractive, healthy, and relatively fit, it's kind of a head-turning experience. In more ways than one. It's so rare that it is so exquisite. When I see women like that with gray hair, I can't help but stare... and wonder how it would be to have such beautiful silvery gray hair and look so elegantly natural. I can't imagine I'm the only one staring... I do wonder if they notice people looking at them and if they know why, or if they get tired of having people stare at them? Next time, I will make a point to say something so they know why I am staring!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-91165216506148138832012-09-29T08:28:18.719-04:002012-09-29T08:28:18.719-04:00I've decided to go grey (but I reserve the rig...I've decided to go grey (but I reserve the right to change my mind). My younger sister is nearly all grey and I love how it looks on her. <br /><br />My husband's mother never had grey hair so I'm definitely not reminding him of her. Kay Lynnhttp://www.weightchronicles.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-8171438483404703702012-09-26T18:56:10.264-04:002012-09-26T18:56:10.264-04:00A well-known therapist and author (a woman) told m...A well-known therapist and author (a woman) told me, "What women who have decided to go grey may not want to hear is that men do not like it. The man may love the woman and support her decision, but grey reminds them of their mothers or grandmothers. It is the loss of sexual potency, it is death, it is not what they want to be in bed with." <br /><br />Tough words to hear for any of us, but especially for single women going grey. If you want to be grey in the hopes of venerating age, go ahead; I admire that. And I did want to share her quote, because we are facing a great deal of unconscious programming re the grey-haired woman.Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-86410953986737702542012-09-25T11:45:21.340-04:002012-09-25T11:45:21.340-04:00I think it can be easier if you are blonde than da...I think it can be easier if you are blonde than dark or auburn. I tend to blend my grey and blonde highlights for contrast. It also depends on the cut. If you have a good sharp modern cut grey can look stunning at any age.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08902418849121978821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-4501892657203425342012-09-25T09:23:28.223-04:002012-09-25T09:23:28.223-04:00Thank you for the mention. (I'm delighted - a ...Thank you for the mention. (I'm delighted - a bunny and a wolf... <i>and</i> a fox? My first chuckle of the day!)<br /><br />This post touches on so many issues that we shrug off as women. And it's no wonder, really. We all have our hands full these days as it is.<br /><br />But the very fact that "old" is a disparaging remark - and we all sense the encroaching years of being an "old lady" and therefore, to a large extent, written off as contributing, as sexual, as a "full person," most of us don't want to feel those days upon us any sooner than we have to. And those of us who pay attention to our older men and women and actually <i>talk</i> to them and <i>listen</i> to them realize they have brains, guts, and experience we could all benefit from.<br /><br />We all slow as we get older. We fade - in more ways than the shiny surface of our hair or skin. But as long as "old" remains a negative in our culture, women especially will have to deal with its social and economic consequences. <br /><br />Off my soapbox. Time to make more coffee to ratchet up the "gray matter" that I like having around the house... BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-88359696316345572912012-09-25T07:59:47.390-04:002012-09-25T07:59:47.390-04:00I was all ready to go grey,my hair is about 40%. L...I was all ready to go grey,my hair is about 40%. Last night my husband and I tossed the yea/nea about the subject and he offered the opinion that it may make me look older (I'm 58) but not opposed. I've been in total attraction to the photographs recently of the women that have made the choice. However, my hair is fine/thin and when I do color it,it seems more thick . After reading this post I may just wait a bit longer. The thought of buying a cute Bob wig style in grey as a "try out" is something I may try soon !<br />Thanks for the great post.<br />eliseelisehttp://triflingconversations.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-86562404392626900652012-09-25T03:37:00.437-04:002012-09-25T03:37:00.437-04:00DA Wolf is right. Women who don't mind the gre...DA Wolf is right. Women who don't mind the grey usually have advantages. Healthy self-regard, consciousness that enables them to genuinely opt out, and/or a level of security (via extraordinary compensating factors, money, or male company) are things that I imagine make grey OK.<br /><br />Color is my accessory, sort of a a get out of jail free. If I were grey, I'd feel obligated--and not just because the world is hostile to old ladies--to be put together. I do get that it's a manifestation of internalized oppression. But I'm not ready to be grey.<br /><br />Why is copper penny's stylist is discouraging color? Is it that she knows the original will not be reproduced? Of course she shouldn't try that.. Better to go brown (but not too ashy, it appears green) than become pink headed. Get an opinion from another colorist. One who does a lot of red.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-39350328088399171932012-09-24T18:50:24.097-04:002012-09-24T18:50:24.097-04:00Ok I'm waiting to hear. I've been struggli...Ok I'm waiting to hear. I've been struggling with this decision for a couple of years. As naturally pale blonde my color seems to be sliding into silver and I think it does age me. Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04723360304687997220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-61795580329003401842012-09-24T18:48:59.526-04:002012-09-24T18:48:59.526-04:00To "go grey" or to color is one of the m...To "go grey" or to color is one of the most charged discussions women can engage in, right up there with whether to cut hair short, I think. While some women with grey hair look terrific, and some look washed out and bleak, I honestly believe it's more about the whole package. What one wears, how one engages with the world, defines us more as defeatist or au courant.Gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01924951632694536923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-14797744839504022842012-09-24T15:33:41.716-04:002012-09-24T15:33:41.716-04:00Mine too!Mine too!A Whole Lotta Magichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15416878913961474994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1702095085461337608.post-68752473413253774842012-09-24T15:15:12.458-04:002012-09-24T15:15:12.458-04:00You have my attention. I look forward to tomorrow&...You have my attention. I look forward to tomorrow's post. Thanks for the shout-out!<br /><br />Judith A. Rosshttp://judithaross.com/noreply@blogger.com